Any number of issues may have prompted your decision to divorce. You are among many other Missouri parents who have determined that their marriages are no longer sustainable and are now moving forward to file the necessary paperwork in court to end their marital relationships. Like most good parents, your children’s best interests are your highest priority, and you may be a bit worried about how they’ll fare as they adapt to their new lifestyle.
There is no way to predict the future, but the fact is, divorce doesn’t necessarily have to ruin your children’s lives. The more you understand about the psychological and emotional levels of your own kids according to their age groups, the better able you’ll be to help them cope. You’ll likely have many good days and some bad; however, with a strong support system in place, you and your kids can overcome most obstacles that arise.
Do you have toddlers?
It is not uncommon for young children to suffer separation anxiety when a parent leaves the house, or even the room for that matter. When your spouse leaves your household for good, you may notice that your younger kids are a bit more clingy than usual. This is often a subliminal reaction toddlers have when a parent leaves, or they worry that their other parent might go away as well.
Other physical signs of distress
Toddlers, and also older kids, may show symptoms of distress in various areas of life as they try to come to terms with a life-changing situation like divorce. If you have a child who was already potty-trained, you may find that he or she regresses. Many Missouri parents have later said that their older children exhibited this symptom of distress, too. Trouble sleeping, bad dreams, lack of appetite or moodiness are other ways children show they are stressed.
If you have a teenage son or daughter, you’ve likely already begun the roller-coaster ride of adolescence as you try to help your child process the ever-fluctuating emotions that are typical to this phase in life. Divorce can intensify a teenager’s emotional instability, and some teens react by becoming extremely rebellious.
Moving on in life
If you have set expectations regarding how your children should react to your divorce, you may be sorely disappointed if that’s not the way the situation plays itself out. However, if you let your kids know how much you love them and keep lines of communication open at all times, chances are, they will be resilient and adaptable even if there are a few bumps in the road along the way.